Prayer is not a disembodied exercise of the mind or intellect. At the deeper levels of prayer, the body and its senses are involved, and prayer becomes an experience of the total person. “Becoming prayer” is a favourite patristic expression. Tears, as an expression of the “sensible” experience, have always been associated with deep compassionate prayer. When the ascetic tradition speaks about “the gift of tears” (charisma ton dakuron), it is not as an expression of sentiments, but as a special charism of the Holy Spirit that induces an incessant flow of tears that “make the flesh bloom” (Isaac the Syrian) in joy and compassion.
In a civilization dominated by the objectivity of cold reason, tears are a matter of shame, vulnerability and the expression of subjective and irrational sentiments. So they are censored from public display and banished from all serious intellectual discourse. Christian theology has followed other scientific disciplines in ignoring the value of tears as signs of metanoia and signals of a compassionate transcendence. Although tears retain a central place in Eastern Christian spirituality, very few people speak about this openly, as they belong to the hidden side of the spiritual life.
Tears originate at different levels. There are tears of sorrow and grief occurring to every human being sometime or other. This is the primary level of tears springing from our fundamental experience. The new-born child cries (though without tears) at the breaking of the umbilical cord, as it comes out of the cosy womb of the mother. The tear glands begin to secrete later on, about the third month. The cry of the baby signals its need of food or warmth or simply the presence of another. Tears here invoke the profound and invisible links the human baby has with other persons and with its surroundings.
In spiritual practice one speaks of the tears of contrition or repentance. This is the phenomenon of tears transformed to the spiritual plane. Sin alienates us and breaks the umbilical cord from God and fellow human beings, and the repenting person weeps in sorrow over this separation.
There is another level of tears in the spiritual tradition of the Christian East: tears of compassion. God’s tender mercy and love enter the whole being of a person and that person melts into tears which continually flow in compassionate love for God’s creation.
“The gift of tears” is not necessarily reserved for a spiritual elite but, as Gregory of Nazianzus affirms, is open to all, though everyone has his or her special gifts. For Gregory tears are a fifth baptism, “a more laborious one” than the baptism of Moses in the Red Sea, of John in the Jordan, of Jesus in the Spirit or of martyrs by blood.
For Symeon the New Theologian (949-1022), tears carry a profound baptismal significance for spiritual regeneration, which purifies and illumines the inner person. In tears “one drinks the grace of the Holy Spirit who unites us in Christ.” As a second baptism it washes away the dirt that accumulates in us after baptism.
Tears can be a sign of deep repentance, but great discernment is needed to judge the level of the inner state of the spiritual seeker. Tears can appear in a beginner as well as one who is advanced in spiritual life. Deep penitence (penthos) is not simply an act of will, but is intimately connected to bodily sensibility. J. Hausherr points out that penitence as an act of will is not necessarily a physical experience, while penthos in the Eastern tradition is always linked to the shedding of tears, a profound bodily sensation. Isaac the Syrian places tears at the border line between our physical and spiritual natures. Tears mediate between the material and the spiritual and signify the stage of transition from one to the other.
Although tears in a spiritual person begin with compunction, repentance for one’s sins, sadness over the alienation from God, terror of coming judgement and fear of God, they rise to the higher levels of compassion and genuine love. John Climacus contrasts tears of love with tears of fear. In Isaac the Syrian, compassion and tears of love open up to embrace the whole of created reality, including those elements which are usually thought to be inimical to human life. In a celebrated passage, the bishop of Nineveh is asked: “What is a compassionate heart?” He answers:
The heart that is inflamed in this way embraces the entire creation – man, birds, animals and even demons. At the recollection of them, and at the sight of them, such a man’s eyes fill with tears that arise from the great compassion which presses on his heart. The heart grows tender and cannot endure to hear of or look upon any injury or even the smallest suffering inflicted upon anything in creation. For this reason such a man prays increasingly with tears even for irrational animals and for the enemies of truth and for all who harm it, that they may be guarded and be forgiven. The compassion which pours out from his heart without measure, like God’s, extends even to reptiles.
K.M. George, The Silent Roots: Orthodox Perspectives on Christian Spirituality (Risk book series) (Geneva, WCC Publications, 1994) 62-65.
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January 29, 2009 at 5:08 am
the gift of tears is a release of love,sincere remorse and thankfulness for His being in our lives Jesus is and always will be.
This was very enlightening and comforting.
September 19, 2010 at 5:17 pm
Thank you,
I’ve had this gift since a major conversional experience in 1993. I was unable to articulate my feelings and to attempt to explain to those around me that I was not in need of comfort but was very much at peace. This really helps.
Thanks again,
John
September 28, 2010 at 3:25 am
I enjoyed your blog very much, especially the part about the Gift of Tears. I am going to be received into the Catholic church soon and recently I had an experience of sudden uncontrolable tears in Adoration. It lasted for about 2 hours while in the Chapel, as I was meditating on Jesus.
I have been a Christian for many years and have had tears before, but nothing to this extent. Thanks for the imput.
October 20, 2010 at 2:34 pm
This is the first time I’m reading about the Gift of Tears. Until a few days ago, I never knew it existed. It comforts me, to know there could be a spiritual reason why I’ve been crying so much while praying for God’s mercy on two people whom I know are grieving for the loss of their loved ones – people whom I’ve not met before. It comforts me because I’ve been wanting to feel closer to God. Thank you.
February 20, 2012 at 1:39 pm
Great to read your reply. I received the gift of tears after my heart surgery.
Sandy
December 15, 2010 at 5:13 am
A good friend, now passed on, first told me of this gift many years ago. I was embarrassed to be at service because tears would flow down my face unbidden and unceasing. He let me know I should be glad and not embarrassed, and I have been since then. But this is the first I ever read about it, and it touches me personally. Thanks so much for this article.
January 10, 2011 at 7:14 am
I was actually Hindu/Buddhist by religion prior to my encounter with Jesus in 2004. Actually I had gone to this chruch in Nepal on a funerals of an acquaintance(by chance it so happened, that the dead man was a christian, which I did not know of). In the church, there was this statue of Jesus on a cross. While looking at the cross, suddenly I started feeling sorry for Jesus, that pain he underwent for us,I started crying all of a sudden,sight of him on the cross was just unbearable to look at and there were so many other feelings, most of which was the feeling of “I am Sorry” I acutally wanted to cry aloud which ofcourse I did’nt. I thought my heart would expold and then a voice within me saying “get baptize”. Yes I am a Christian now. Have had great experiences with God and it still continues, thanks to his grace (detail of which I can’t write now). But yes, to this day I cry,crys of different types, as you have mentioned above. Had no deeper understanding of my crying until now. Don’t know why am I posting my comment to you, coz I am not a person to communicate through medium such as this.But yes, Thank You Very Much for the insight. God bless You and keep You.
April 22, 2011 at 3:47 am
Today is Maundy Thursday, the day before Good Friday. I attended an evening service which was quite moving. I always knew I had the gift of tears but haven’t thought too much about it. What a surprise when I started to tear up and continued after service. I need to bring a handkerchief with me to church. I never know when a particular passage or hymn will start the tears flowing. Thank you for your explanation.
April 28, 2011 at 12:39 pm
Pascha was such a beautiful and moving experience for me, at the services in Robertson. I had tears a few times and the moments of tears are beyond words – I don’t even try to explain them. On Tuesday a good friend invited me to watch Jesus Christ Superstar – the musical. I declined and thought to myself, I have no need for another depiction of Christ on earth if I have experienced the Orthodox services of Pascha. Christ is risen.
December 20, 2011 at 2:20 am
I woke in the middle of the night feeling as though a sword had been thrust in my heart. Two days later I prostrated myself in St. Monica’s chapel and begged God for joy. I proceeded to cry for almost a year with a sorrow I couldn’t fathom possible. I could not stop myself. I felt like my heart was breaking. After three months I told myself, “You can’t cry forever.” I wondered at it’s meaning and drove myself nuts trying to figure it out. What disturbed me was my tears were accompanied with a feeling of terror, despair, loss, loneliness. It didn’t seem rational but I was not in control of it. It seemed as though the sorrow of the whole world was channelling through me. I still don’t know what it was. I hope that it was a good thing.
Can anyone help me understand this experience?
February 18, 2012 at 3:41 am
Wow, I had never heard of “The Gift of Tears”. Explains alot! I had an experience about a year ago at Benediction. I had just been to confession, and I was fine, no tears etc. When the Benediction started, the Priest lifted the Euchrist, and I fell apart. I could not stop crying! I wasn’t really sure what happened. I am an emotional person, but not like this. It is usually because something happened, someone hurt me etc. But this was so different. The pew beside me was full of tissues from me crying etc. It was quite overwhelming. But beautiful in the same sense. I did have something similar happen 10 or so years before, while saying the rosary before mass one friday. I could not stop crying. Good to know I am not alone.